I wonder, how many times a day do you find yourself looking down at your phone, checking your email, paying a bill, figuring out what you're feeding your family for dinner and when you're going to have time to do some laundry so your family can look half-way presentable? Did I mention, when you're going find time to clean your home before the in-laws are headed over? Our lives, our days, our minutes seem to be so full of decisions and constant focus is needed in order to achieve the tasks of the day! When did life get so busy?
Sometimes, I feel like I'm at a theme park and there are thousands of people all around and I find myself sitting on a bench observing the sweet families who are diligently studying the theme park map, the teenage couple who is a little too cozy in 100 degree weather, the cute kiddos who are eating
cotton candy and the stressed out mom who is applying sunscreen while laying down the law for her kids for the fun that awaits. I find myself watching all of the chaos and then a ringing starts in my ears. Suddenly, I can no longer hear anything. My eyes are trying to process the fast paced, high demand, constantly on the go world that we all live in. If we're not careful, we can get so caught up in the "business," that we no longer focus on the substance of a moment. Being present while playing with your kids, actively listening and engaging in conversation with your spouse, actually making eye contact with the worker at Target while you are paying for your merch, simply being kind enough to converse with your coworker while you are both getting your morning Java--all of those moments could be wasted.
You see, sometimes, I find myself frustrated with just how "busy" I am. Completely understandable and expected, but I can still feel my spirit weighed down by the coming and going, instead of keeping my focus on just the being present part! I have learned to truly dislike the word "busy" in and of itself! The fact of the matter is, busy is our culture and busy is my life, but when I focus on the substance of the moments that make up my day and not the tasks that have to be done it is truly enlightening!
Realizing and acknowledging that you literally cannot be all things to all people and you can't make every dinner party or attend the birthday party of your nephew's best friend's Aunt's second cousin! Learning on what to give your precious time too is half the battle! There is a liberating freedom when you are at a place when you can say "no" to something that does not require your presence! I, like most women try to be at everything that I am invited to and I make it a point too, but if it's been a crazy week, heck, if it's been a crazy month and there have been several nights in a row where I have not spent quality time with my family, I have learned to say "no," and the best part about it is I no longer feel guilty or bad because I realize that my intentions are in the right place and during this exciting, but very busy season of life that I am in, not everything can make the planner!
There are also practical ways that we can cut out the unnecessary "busy" time that fill our days, for instance, instead of going to a 2 hour lunch date with a different girlfriend once a week, make a monthly girls lunch or a girls night out with all of your fabulous girlfriends! You're calendar wins because you roughly saved yourself 6 hours and your bank account will thank you because you're only having one "fancy" girl outing!
I am sure I am not alone when I tell you that I am a list person (at least I hope I'm not). I have learned that if I want to be successful to accomplish necessary tasks during a crazy week, then I need to be organized. As soon as I accomplish something, I cross that certain task off of my list and as my list winds down I am filled with an inner satisfaction that I was and still am victorious (because we must celebrate the little victories)! The beautiful thing about making a list is that you have to focus on the needs at hand, if you are never intentional about the tasks for the week ahead then you will spend more time debating on what should even make the list! Be decisive, be intentional and use Siri to make a list on your morning commute (I do, almost every day).
I have recently started a new job and I know that I am productive in the mornings, I start work at 9, and between 9-12, I try to put my phone in a place where I cannot see or even feel it vibrate, because the work load ahead of me at this point in time is so overwhelming. However, if I can give my 100% focus on work and not be side tracked with the million and one things on my phone, then I will set the pace for the whole day!
Also, when I am at home, I try to limit my time on my phone so those who mean the most to me can know by conversation and hugs, not by how much Mommy checks her social media or email. On that note, when I am cleaning, I intentionally leave my phone in my bedroom and turn it off, that way I am totally focused on cleaning my house and am not wasting time in between to see if my latest Amazon order is in transit or to see who is shining the brightest on IG! I love to do both of those things but I am the only one in control of my time, therefore I must be diligent at what I allow to occupy my time.
I love a good binge day of Netflix as much as the next person, however, the last time I had one of those days was pre-toddler, which has been 2 years ago, but a girl still has her shows! I would be lying to you if I said that I never watch TV, because I most definitely have a few shows that my DVR faithfully records, but who has time to watch 5 shows in a week? I typically am able to watch 2-3 hours for the whole week! I am certainly not wasting 4 hours a night. Now trust me, if I was not working, I could totally see myself getting caught up in TV shows, but back to reality, I simply do not have time to watch TV for hours on end. If you are finding yourself busy beyond belief and if other areas In your life are lacking quality time, sacrificing a TV show is a small price to pay for the investment into marriage, mommyhood, friendship or some sweet sleep!
I hope that if you have been praying to God to give you more hours in the day (I know I have), then I hope that this blog has given you a different perspective of what we are giving our time too. If we don't choose where and who our time goes to, then it is constantly being pulled into many different directions! I get it, life is life, which means it can be complicated, messy, unpredictable, and sometimes crazy, but if we are able to be intentional, using wisdom, we will hopefully be able to better manage our days, weeks and months. We are not always going to get it right, but we can continually try. We owe it to ourselves, we owe it to our families and we owe it to Jesus.
Let me end on this note, if you find yourself completely busy every single Sunday, in fact, too busy to attend church, because there is a brunch or the beach is calling your name every Sunday, we have to honor the One who gave us everything! We should be making God and family the highest priority on the list! There shouldn't be a question as to where you will be this Sunday...because you will be (or should be) sitting next to me in church, then we can go to brunch afterwards, duh!!!
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