Happy one minute. Crying the next minute. Knows everything already before even told. Wants to be alone. Wants to be with you. Welcome to the world of teenagers.
While our children were young, we could spend time cuddling and hugging and kissing on our babies. Then they hit the magical teenage years and our children are beginning to maybe push back from physical touch. This does not mean that they do not love us; it just means that they do receive love the same way. It is imperative that we change the way we show love towards our teenagers so that we are still able to reach them at this pivotal time in their life. Right now we have a 14-year-old son and our daughter, who is 11, is not far behind.
I am sure that many of you are familiar with the book by Gary Chapman called The 5 Love Languages. He has written book for parents of teenagers called The 5 Love Languages Of Teenagers. Chapman’s book will help guide you to understanding today’s teenager and how you can connect to your teenage son or daughter. Gary Chapman covers the 5 love languages for teenagers, which are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch.
The love language that you and I would consider our primary love language could be the complete opposite of our teenagers love language. For example, if I were to buy my son gifts in order to show my love, he would not think of it as sincere or genuine love. He feels love through words of affirmation and quality time. What does that mean? He would rather be told that he is doing a great job or go fishing with his dad than to be given a gift all the time. This is how he feels loved. Now, don’t get me wrong, he loves receiving gifts. But this is how my husband and I can best express our love towards him.
Why is it so important to know your child’s love language? So we can know how each of our children feels loved in their own way. What works for one of our kids may not work for the other. We also need to fill our teenagers love tank.
Chapman wrote, “when the teenager’s love tank is empty he thinks that no one really cares about me.” Our teenagers need to know and feel loved by the ones that love them the most.
The 5 love Languages Of Teenagers by Gary Chapman is a must read for parents of teenagers or those with soon-to- be teenagers. You will gain insight into the world of teenagers and learn how to effectively love your teenager. You can grab a copy here:
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