As I sit here and look at this blank page, there is a lot that I would like to write.
Personally, I feel strongly about this topic that I am bringing to your computer, mobile device and tablet screen today.
When I wrote out the title for this blog, a lump in my throat came up and my eyes began to water a little. I think it’s solely due to the fact that I just read the letter written by the young woman whom was taken advantage of in the Stanford College case we all have been watching on our television (even me, writing this post in Europe right now, I am following it too).
I’m not here to flood your screen with my opinions today. I’m also not here to talk about a controversial event. With my major of study in college, I have found that everyone is different, everyone has different opinions on things and of that, respect should be given.
However, I am a woman.
I am a woman who has gone to these parties that the woman in this case went to. I am a woman that lived the college life (even if for a short period of time). I traded in the partying scene for other activities such as a job, internship, etc. Some people may think I’m lame, and I didn’t have the college experience, but to each their own, you know? You might think I don’t have much to say about this topic, but trust me - I do.
Personally, during my time on a college campus I mostly went home on the weekends because I am more into sleeping than having a drink at a frat house… But in my day, I have seen some people make poor decisions. I have seen some people regret decisions. I personally haven’t always been 100% happy with my decisions I have made in my past, but we live and we learn, correct?
However, if you make a decision that will affect another person for the rest of their lives, I pray that you learn what you did and you spend the rest of your life making it right, even though it may never exactly be right.
Now. To start this off, I just want to say this: if you are a girl that has ever, I mean EVER, been taken advantage of to any degree – you are in my thoughts and I’m praying for you today. I can’t even wrap my brain around something that horrible. It is not okay. I hope, with all of my heart, that you do not see yourself any different because of that. I hope that you know that you are still amazing, still beautiful and despite anything bad that ever happened to you…. You are one brilliant, awesome, strong, role model of a person.
I’ve had some pretty great influences in my life. My mother is a sweet, sassy and loving person. My father is a hard worker and someone who stands his ground. I have some amazing grandparents and others that have influenced me in many ways. However, my dad has taught me one important concept that I take with me everywhere – knowing my worth. Whether it has been in a relationship, in school, at a job interview… In the spirit of Fathers Day, my pops has always been someone that I look up to. He pushes me to be the best that I can be, he’s even hard on me at times (which is okay because I’ve needed it and it has built my character), he’s taught me many valuable life lessons and in all honesty he expects a lot out of me.
He also expects that I know my worth. Why does he expect that from me you ask? The answer is because he taught me everything I know about knowing my worth.
Knowing your worth can mean multiple things. It can mean knowing what you deserve in a relationship, what you can bring to the table at your job, knowing when to walk away from a bad friendship, or what you can do to improve the lives of others.
Truthfully, I am a very independent girl. I like to do things by myself, for myself and on my time. But I wasn’t always that way. I’ve taught myself how to be that way and I am very confident in my career choice, my relationships I have, and my capability of doing a variety things… I love it. I personally believe as a woman of any discrimination, it is important to FULLY know what you bring to the table, and never let anyone take that away from you.
For my college girls, it’s a weird time in your life. Trust me, I’ve been there. I just want each and every one of you to hold your standards impeccably high, and never ever do anything you feel uncomfortable doing.
I hope for any woman out there that has ever had her worth dampened, discouraged, questioned or lessened for even a millisecond…. You get right back up and show the world all the amazing things you have to offer.
Wake up and kick butt tomorrow ladies, make sure that you remember what you are worth. You are worth the whole universe, all its moons and all of the stars in the galaxy, and I hope from the bottom of my heart that you never let anyone tell you or make you feel less.
"Here's to strong women, may we know them, may we be them, may we raise them."--French by Design
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