Ya know that feeling when someone you care about makes you feel so very loved? That awesome feeling when a friend showers you with encouragement or surprises you with a little something special that just makes your whole day. Or when your hubby takes you on a date that he planned ever-so-intricately to perfection. Or when you get into a really good conversation that lasts for hours and makes you feel refreshed and ready to change the world by the time you’re finished chatting…
We all love to feel loved.
Of course there are many different types of love, and different ways that we express our love toward those we care about.
These days I’m working hard to make my kiddos feel loved.
Yes, I’m a mommy, and all of us mommies love to love on our babies; And I love on each of my two in different ways.
But as my sweet girl is getting a little older (she’s four now, woah), the way I make sure she feels love has slightly shifted.
So here are some ways I’m working on consistently making my little luv-bug feel loved on the regular.
1. Spending Quality Time
These are times when I focus completely on my girl. I talk to her and really listen to what she has to say. One of the big things here is to make sure that my conversations with her are actually meaningful. So often we get busy and we end up with lots of responses that sound something like “uh-huh” or “that’s good, honey!” But I noticed that when I take the time to stop all the busyness and block out distractions (ya know, phones, computers, dishes, work, cleaning, the list goes way, WAY on…) and just spend time with her, the results are just great. She is generally happier and believe it or not her behavior even gets better! This is probably the top way that I have found that my specific daughter feels loved the most.
2. Making Eye Contact
Seems like such a minor thing, but it’s really not! Making eye-contact shows her that I am totally interested in what she has to say, more than whateverelse might have my attention in the busyness of the day-to-day. Of course I don’t make eye contact with her 100% of the time– I mean that would just be creepy. Hah! But I do try to be intentional about taking little moments throughout the day where I intentionally look away from what I’m doing, and look her straight in the eye while she’s telling me yet another story about what happened at preschool today.
3. Taking an Interest
Speaking of the thousand-and- one stories that she tells me throughout the day…Honestly, I don’t always care (in the moment) about who pushed who, or who colored a penguin, or how many times the class counted to twenty today. Well I mean, I DO care, but sometimes I get distracted in the daily routine and the list of to-dos and I forget that these things are things my girl cares about. One day she’ll be all grown up. She’ll have a full, big girl life, where she has to make decisions, deal with heartache, and fulfill responsibilities. When this time comes, she’ll need someone who she can talk to. Someone who she feels really cares about what she has to say. When that time comes, I hope that I will have established a relationship with her that is solid enough to the point that I can be that person for her.
Right now it might be what songs she sang in circle time today. But later it’ll be much deeper and more complex. So by taking an actual interest in her right now, I’m building the solid foundation that will only grow stronger over time.
The awesome part of all of this is that by filling up my girl’s love cup, my own love cup is being filled up as well!
As mommies we want nothing more than to see our sweet kiddos happy and feeling loved. Figuring out what makes my girl feel loved will be an ongoing journey as she grows and matures, I am most certain. But right now I sure am excited to learn what makes her four-year-old heart so happy.
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