As a woman there is a different definition of strong that comes with our gender. It is not strength of physicality but more emotional and mental strength that is tested beyond measure. I, myself, have been through some pretty painful moments that emotionally I thought were physically going to destroy me; however, my mental strength proved me wrong. If I am being honest, it was my faith that held me together because in my flesh I was at the end. It is only by faith I am held together.
If you sat down with me about a year and a half ago, I would’ve told you my life plan. I had it all figured out. I totally knew (or thought I knew) what I wanted to do for a career, I knew when I was going to graduate, I knew I wanted to go to grad school, I knew what the perfect internship was, I knew who my real friends were, I knew when I wanted to settle down…
I knew it all, and I wanted absolutely zero help from anyone, I was going to do it all for myself and by myself.
Well guess what? Over the last year and a half, a lot has changed. Not saying I don’t know any of the above anymore and I’m definitely NOT saying change is a bad thing (check out my last blog post for my feels on that topic ha.) I’m just saying that I’m a-okay where I’m at right now.
I know you’ve heard a lot about She Is Blank Space and our app on the way, but I want to talk about how we got here, why this is so important to me, why it’s so needed.
One day I woke up.
No, not by the beeping of my alarm clock or my kids poking me in the eyeball, but I WOKE up.
My innermost being was so lost, confused, and just flat out blah.
It was as if God tossed a bucket of ice cold water in my face and said, “Ashley, my dear, whom I love so hugely…what are you doing?”
I absolutely could not answer that question. Sad, right? Yeah, I thought so too. This started a downward then upward spiral. It was a lot of questioning and addressing things I was holding onto before I could start moving forward. I dug in deep, cried a lot of tears from past hurts, anger, and whatever else I needed to face. This was hard for me, a person that seemingly had it all together, to admit defeat and that I was failing at “life.”
You know that old saying, "don't judge a book by it's cover?" Well, despite how much we would like to be able to tell everyone we meet our story right then and there to see the whole picture, we are more complex than that, and people do judge us from their initial glance at us. We are people with layers and substance, often taking time to develop relationships before spilling the beans of our life story. Today though, I challenge you to share of yourself a little faster, letting the walls down, as you never know if the person on the other side needs to hear it.
One way I've found to make this easier is to rock a cute, inspirational tee. It tells a little bit of your story from the get go and opens the door to conversation that could start a valuable friendship, be the light in someone's day or inspire someone to choose positivity. We hope you enjoy a few sneak peeks from our app on the way soon as we share about these incredible tee companies we adore! Huge thanks to 139 Made, Thread Tanks, Ascent 516, BEcoming Threads and Wholeheartedly for partnering with us on this journey of inspiration<3
Well, the preaching may come out in this one y'all, but where there is truth, there is freedom. Can I get an amen?!?
Let me just say the enemy wants nothing more than to come up in your life and take your joy! The Bible says the enemy comes for three things; to steal, kill, and destroy. He doesn't care what he has to do to do it, but BAYYYBYY, he sure will if we let him. And do you know how we easily let him do this?!? Comparison. Let me say that again. We give the enemy permission to come jack us up (emotionally speaking) when we find ourselves comparing what GOD gave US to what God has given to OTHERS!
What a gift it is to come across people that have taken something they've been through and chosen to make good out of it. When I first meet Tiffany of Wholeheartedly, it was like we had been friends for years and chatted away for the longest time. We found commonality in balancing mom life and work life, with a little entrepreneurship mixed in. Obviously, with our name, I am drawn to things of meaning, not just labels--things that get to the core of who you are as a person.
When you ask Tiffany about the name of her jewelry and clothing company, she explains, "I wholeheartedly wouldn't change any of the pieces that that make me who I am today and I can now wear every single one of my pieces with pride." She learned that as a single mother facing difficult times, that more often than not, people offered pity instead of encouragement. She basically said "no thank you" to accepting that, and found a way to empower herself to push through.
As we head into the new year ahead, we wanted to share some of your most favorite posts from 2016. In no particular order, here is our top 16! Thank you for supporting us and having fun alongside us. May you have a blessed year ahead!
When someone brings up the holiday season, the first thing that has popped in my head since I was eight years old and watched Elf for the first time is, “SANTA...I KNOW HIM!”
Wait. Before I go on. I just said I was eight years old when Elf came out. WHAT EVEN! Ugh.
Anyway, back to business. This year has been a little different for me. This year, my other half, one of the biggest and absolute best parts of my holiday season, is deployed. I wish I could sugar coat it but I can’t - it’s been pretty tough so far.
I think I’ve done a pretty good job. I’ve been super strong. Being apart for about six months so far with a few more to go has been hard, but I know it’ll all be worth it in the end. One thing I know for sure is that there are plenty of people in the same situation as I am, and I’m fortunate enough to be surrounded by my family and loved ones.
Single Ladies.. single mommas…be encouraged by God’s word...
"Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:4
"Don't compromise what God said was meant for a blessing."
"Don’t establish a relationship based on what you can get from it."
"God won't bless a relationship that he isn't in."
"Learn to be okay with just being with you!"
Boy, do I know these words of wisdom oh so well! The truth is I spent the majority of my dating life doing the complete opposite. I was so impatient and just wanted to have what she had and what they had. I allowed my self to tirelessly try to prove to people who just couldn't see my worth, to see me. I chased after rejection. Convinced myself that he would change. Things would change. I even placed unrealistic expectations on me for the sake of a relationship. I didn't want to let it go. So I stuck through it all. Changed whatever I had to just to make that person comfortable.
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