Last we talked, I was chatting about my future plans and how I had absolutely no idea what was ahead. Slowly but surely, things have started to come together(bless!), but today I wanted to talk about standing on your own two feet. For anyone, the first real leap “out of the nest” can be tough. Leaving mom and dad, friends and family, to venture out onto your own is not always the easiest, but it must be done. For me, I’m moving a few states away from my mom and dad to Texas! However, I also know that it can be equally as hard taking that first jump even if it is right around the corner from wherever you call home.
In my previous post, “Living Without Her Plans,” I wrote about how at one point in my life, I swore I had it all figured out. Just a little recap – I literally thought I knew, down to the nitty gritty, what was ahead of me in this funny thing we call life.
Story ruined: that all changed.
Maybe it wasn’t ruined though. Maybe if I stuck to MY plans, my life wouldn’t have been all that great after all. It took me a minute to realize I needed to calm down and just give it to the big man upstairs. Lets face it y’all – He knows what He’s doing.
If you sat down with me about a year and a half ago, I would’ve told you my life plan. I had it all figured out. I totally knew (or thought I knew) what I wanted to do for a career, I knew when I was going to graduate, I knew I wanted to go to grad school, I knew what the perfect internship was, I knew who my real friends were, I knew when I wanted to settle down…
I knew it all, and I wanted absolutely zero help from anyone, I was going to do it all for myself and by myself.
Well guess what? Over the last year and a half, a lot has changed. Not saying I don’t know any of the above anymore and I’m definitely NOT saying change is a bad thing (check out my last blog post for my feels on that topic ha.) I’m just saying that I’m a-okay where I’m at right now.
I know you’ve heard a lot about She Is Blank Space and our app on the way, but I want to talk about how we got here, why this is so important to me, why it’s so needed.
One day I woke up.
No, not by the beeping of my alarm clock or my kids poking me in the eyeball, but I WOKE up.
My innermost being was so lost, confused, and just flat out blah.
It was as if God tossed a bucket of ice cold water in my face and said, “Ashley, my dear, whom I love so hugely…what are you doing?”
I absolutely could not answer that question. Sad, right? Yeah, I thought so too. This started a downward then upward spiral. It was a lot of questioning and addressing things I was holding onto before I could start moving forward. I dug in deep, cried a lot of tears from past hurts, anger, and whatever else I needed to face. This was hard for me, a person that seemingly had it all together, to admit defeat and that I was failing at “life.”
You know that old saying, "don't judge a book by it's cover?" Well, despite how much we would like to be able to tell everyone we meet our story right then and there to see the whole picture, we are more complex than that, and people do judge us from their initial glance at us. We are people with layers and substance, often taking time to develop relationships before spilling the beans of our life story. Today though, I challenge you to share of yourself a little faster, letting the walls down, as you never know if the person on the other side needs to hear it.
One way I've found to make this easier is to rock a cute, inspirational tee. It tells a little bit of your story from the get go and opens the door to conversation that could start a valuable friendship, be the light in someone's day or inspire someone to choose positivity. We hope you enjoy a few sneak peeks from our app on the way soon as we share about these incredible tee companies we adore! Huge thanks to 139 Made, Thread Tanks, Ascent 516, BEcoming Threads and Wholeheartedly for partnering with us on this journey of inspiration<3
Well, the preaching may come out in this one y'all, but where there is truth, there is freedom. Can I get an amen?!?
Let me just say the enemy wants nothing more than to come up in your life and take your joy! The Bible says the enemy comes for three things; to steal, kill, and destroy. He doesn't care what he has to do to do it, but BAYYYBYY, he sure will if we let him. And do you know how we easily let him do this?!? Comparison. Let me say that again. We give the enemy permission to come jack us up (emotionally speaking) when we find ourselves comparing what GOD gave US to what God has given to OTHERS!
As we head into the new year ahead, we wanted to share some of your most favorite posts from 2016. In no particular order, here is our top 16! Thank you for supporting us and having fun alongside us. May you have a blessed year ahead!
Gulp--2017 is almost here. Me and time have a love hate relationship. Part of me wants it to slow it's role and stop ticking, the other part of me is always full of anticipation for things to come. I'd like to think that is a healthy mix, so I'm going to share a little about what this last year has held and where we are going.
I remember before we launched the site, I started sharing that I was up to something exciting and when I was finally able to convince people I was not pregnant again, the real fun began. It all came out of no where, so I completely understand the many puzzled looks I got. I had a lot of butterflies to get past y'all, as I am a very friendly, loving person, but not what you'd consider outgoing. This is a little bit on the put-it-all-out-there-for-the-world-to-see side and believe me, I had a few coming to Jesus moments where I asked, "are you sure?"
When someone brings up the holiday season, the first thing that has popped in my head since I was eight years old and watched Elf for the first time is, “SANTA...I KNOW HIM!”
Wait. Before I go on. I just said I was eight years old when Elf came out. WHAT EVEN! Ugh.
Anyway, back to business. This year has been a little different for me. This year, my other half, one of the biggest and absolute best parts of my holiday season, is deployed. I wish I could sugar coat it but I can’t - it’s been pretty tough so far.
I think I’ve done a pretty good job. I’ve been super strong. Being apart for about six months so far with a few more to go has been hard, but I know it’ll all be worth it in the end. One thing I know for sure is that there are plenty of people in the same situation as I am, and I’m fortunate enough to be surrounded by my family and loved ones.
Have you ever gone to the mall and just gone on auto-pilot? Not thinking about what you may be spending money on because maybe it was payday or you just got money for your birthday? I know I have! Have you ever not said goodbye to someone you love when they go on a trip because you forgot? I know I have! Have you ever regretted not getting to spend five more minutes with a love one before they pass? I know I have…
There have been so many instances this year where I have been thankful and now is a great time to reflect on all those moments and realize how truly blessed I am.
This year was extremely difficult for my family. We lost the patriarch of the family, my 95 year-old grandfather. I never thought the day would come, but sadly it did. This is the first holiday season I have to go through without him being here at all. I was heart-broken, as was the entire family. I didn’t think I would still be having a hard time with this loss, however there are good day and bad days. I try and think back to all of the wonderful memories I have of him. To
put it simply: he was an amazing man and a great role model.
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