This one is for my single ladies, my looking ladies, my confused ladies, my I can't even decide what color nail polish to paint my nails let alone how to date, ladies! I got you.
I'm going to speak on some real life experience for a min or two if that's okay with you...okay, great. So this is a story all about how my life got flipped turned upside Right! Oh yeah girl. So I always had this idea of who my man was going to be right! Like he HAD to have a job because I mean I need to be courted of course and I love flowers. **Effort matters** He had to be fine because honnnneyyyy I have to look at him daily. He's has got to be funny for obvious reasons like the fact I need a good laugh. BUUUTTTTT they have to be jokes I understand, as in inside jokes I'm on the inside of too boo boo. And let us not forget education. He needed to be educated, but who cares if he is doing anything with it as long as he had it because that degree title is everything and passion isn't on paper. No kids. No drama. A car to drive me in duh! And number one he needed to be Godly. You know? The man sitting
up in church on Sunday's, dressed to the nines, hands up in the air PRAISING some Jesus! ****EYE ROLL OVER AND OVER - STALE FACE****
Titles. I was chasing titles. I met a few with those titles and guess what? They did not work! Why? Because your husband, your partner in life, wasn't designed to meet your wish list; he was designed to balance you in areas you struggle with. He was designed to accentuate your gifts while discovering others. He was designed to bring Christ to your heart, not a title to your name!
I dated some self titled "Godly" men and oooooh baby on Sunday's they looked good! Suit and tied up acting a worshipping, scripture reciting fool on Sunday but come Monday betrayed you like Judas did Jesus. You see the title is simply a title. It is meaningless if your action isn't what the word originally represents. Let me be clear. I said I wanted a man with that church going title. I never said I wanted a PARTNER with the heart of Christ. Are you with me ladies? We are looking for the wrong thing. We are asking for the wrong things!
I was recently humbled when I stumbled upon a situation where the title was missing and instead of looking at the heart representation I was missing out on blessings and sitting in misery. A conversation with my mom about her and my father's relationship over their 28 years together opened my eyes and humbled my heart. What is important to me? A man with a heart for God. A man with his own relationship with God. A man who loves God so much that he loves me like Christ does! Let me say that again...I needed a PARTNER who Loves me like CHRIST loves me! I needed a 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 partner. I didn't want a man who sits on a church on Sunday but a man who treats people with a Christ like heart Monday through Sunday!
You see sometimes ladies, we are so busy thinking about dessert that we miss out on the 5 course meal. Why on earth would we rush to dessert, which we all feel guilty about eating anyway, when we can be fully satisfied on all palettes in the same meal?!? You hear me? Like really?!? Why have one when God wants you to have it all?!? We need to stop chasing the sweets that look appealing but lead to misery and guilt and instead be open to exposing our palettes to overlooked entrées, which leads to ultimate satisfaction! Yes I compared your soulmate to food. I did indeed. But you get it now right?
Jesus teaches us not to judge. He teaches us to love. When we judge we miss out on blessings. We miss out on love. Think about all the people in your life that you love and can't picture life without. I bet there are a few you looked over at first due to preconceived ideas of who you THOUGHT they were but later learned differently. Sitting up in church doesn't make you Christ like just like being an at home waxing fool makes me a licensed esthetician.
All I'm saying is let's stop looking for that title and let's look for those who represent the things important to us. In love, in friendships, in general- ALWAYS be good. Always be kind. Always love with compassion. Always be who you are looking for. Remember the best things in life are worth waiting for! And so are you!
Sending you love and hugs my precious sisters!
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